August 26, 2019 | Attitude And Behavior | No Comments
“He wouldn’t hurt me. My boyfriend said so – I am his dove. He says he will take care of me since I am so pure and innocent. He wouldn’t hurt me, intentionally. I mean, it was an accident. I’m so clumsy. I always have been. It’s nothing, really. When he moved his hand in the air, I hurriedly turned and so, we clashed. That was it. I mean, he loves me. He loves me so much. He wouldn’t hurt me.”
— Monica, 19, Houston, TX
“Huh! If I could do it, I would. I really would, but I can’t. Right now, I just can’t. I am so angry at myself for being in this situation. I am letting him do this to me just because I need his money since I have nothing. I am so flat broke and with three kids to feed – they’re not even his, but he is helping out. I’m not even married to him, and I am here. If I could do it, I would. I would put piss in his drink. This husband of mine left no space in my body since everything is black and blue. See? Only my teeth are unbruised. He transforms into someone else when he is drunk. It’s like he’s Dr. Jekyll when sober, super sweet and loving. I then meet Mr. Hyde when he drinks his vodka which is almost every weekend. If not for the money, I’m gone. I really am gone.”
— Tracy, 27, Albany, NY
“I can see how my dad disciplines my mom if she makes a mistake. What? Her mistakes? Oh, the usual – my mom being a minute late with preparing dinner, his clothes not pressed enough, or the water is not sparkling. I mean the usual stuff that homemakers are supposed to do right but my mom can’t seem to perfect it. Is it normal? Is it like that in your home too? Does your mom get punished as well? ‘Coz my mom gets reprimanded a lot. Like a lot. Every day, I think. But my dad gives her gifts too. He is so sweet, the perfect husband. My mom is just so stupid. If I were her when I grow up, I wouldn’t mess up as she did with the house chores. Dad is working so hard for all of us. It’s not easy to send us to private schools and put food on the table. The least she could do is provide a clean home. And she couldn’t do that?”
— Mary, 13, Malibu, CA
“My sister can’t see it, but her husband is no good for her. One day, I swear, he is going to hurt her so bad that she will never recover. I am afraid for that day to come, and I can see it. But why can’t she? He lies. He cheats all the time, and he even lets her work since he is unemployed. Too cliché, right? I know. It’s like one for the movies, except it’s real. It’s happening to my sister. He even has the guts to walk over her and the worst, hit her like she’s a punching bag. I have tried to intervene so many times, but she won’t let me. Why won’t she let me?”
Andrea, Miami, FL
Have you heard these tales before? These are four women who spoke about domestic violence, each with their own story and lesson to learn.
Just remember one thing – no matter how bad you think you are, YOU DON’T DESERVE A MAN’S HAND ON YOU. You are not worthless. You are nothing. He doesn’t own you. He is not your boss.
Don’t forget your worth. If a man hits you, for even one slap, grab, pull, jab or punch, never come back to him. He is bound to hit you again, and inevitably, this will kill you mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and you know what, maybe even for real.
Hitting is never a sign of love, and if you think you can’t get out but need help, all you have to do is call the police. Just start from there. You can do this. You are a woman – an empowered and beautiful being.