November 4, 2019 | Attitude And Behavior | No Comments
When you talk about empowerment self-defense, you don’t only discuss one’s physical skills – it’s more than just resisting an attack or countering one. That is why when you enroll in empowerment self-defense classes, you have to find one where the instructor discusses assertiveness, awareness, and physical skills. All these combined will help you find the means to escape, counterattack, survive, and recover from abuse, harassment, or assault.
When you choose a class, look for an experienced and proficient instructor, one who:
- Believes that when one is assaulted or abused, it is never his fault – he or she is the victim. Individuals don’t just ask for an assault to happen or invite someone to cause it. And they most definitely don’t deserve to be abused in any way. A person may make a wrong choice or poor judgment, but it doesn’t make her accountable for someone attacking her. The assailant is responsible for the assault and the use of compulsion, intimidation, threat, control, or violence that he does to another person.
- Is aware of and supports the emotional truths of gay, lesbian, and women’s lives and is capable of working with each student wherever he or she is coming from. For instance, a proficient instructor adapts physical and verbal strategies and applies these to each of his students according to their strengths and weaknesses. They have customized programs for their students because they know that there is no one-size-fits-all solution to everything.
- Has extensive knowledge and information on gender-based assaults and violence and tailors his classes around these facts. He may stress events that involve getting to know or finding your romantic partner, as this is one of the most common scenarios where assaults or abuse may happen.
- Empowers his students by encouraging them to practice self-defense as well as focusing on the empowerment classes as well. He makes sure that his students are comfortable in deciding how much they participate in class. There should be no pressure in performing exercises but rather should be eager enough to do them freely.
- Has full respect in his students’ decisions in handling hazardous and life-threatening situations. He doesn’t condemn or judge the survivors but rather strives to instill self-esteem along with the knowledge and techniques on how to prevent abuse or assault from happening to them.
- Teaches holistically by speaking about the general scope of gender-based violence and is holistic in the approaches that he discusses to his students. He includes topics like emotional and mental abuse, harassment, and other behaviors.
- Has a comprehensive understanding of the effects of trauma to victims and survivors and aims to make learning empowerment self-defense and enriching and therapeutic process.
- Aspires to teach his students the various tools and techniques that will help them prevent abuse or fight their assailants in uncontrollable circumstances. He strives to make the experience success-based and not fear-based.
- With the rise in gender oppression, he promotes anti-racism and is explicitly clear to teach without attempts to judge, neglect, or condemn the victims.
- Understands that this gender-based violence is something that is seen in all genders, including men and women. It is an expression of all types of oppression that also adds to the already rising social problems in society.
A good instructor, therefore, can truly make a significant difference between being excited and suddenly discouraged and scared. He sees to it that each of his students will soon believe that nothing in life is to be feared – it is only to be understood.